Bringing up

Get to know your child's personality, tomorrow

Your wishes will come true.

When a child comes into the world, he brings with him, in addition to hereditary, familial habits and customs, his individual and personal characteristics. But what happens is that the parents want to raise the child in the mold of their own will. I want to see it rise in my favorite style. Custom words are taught. His movements are controlled according to his will. 

Then when the child grows up, he is sent to his favorite school. Even without knowing where the child is headed, the pressure of parental aspirations on his / her subjects and career choices is too much for the child and it often happens that he/she has to choose the field of education against the child's tendencies. The result of which is usually when the failure is manifested, the children are accused of being incompetent, useless and disobedient and this leads to a thousand complaints.

Most children rebel as soon as they reach puberty. On the other hand, parents become upset and turn away from their children.

This situation can be avoided if parents exercise a little patience and show prudence. The fact is that raising a child is also an art that a mother who becomes acquainted with this art can build a happy future for herself and her home. The first brick of this construction is laid when a small creature enters the house.

Don't think of him as a helpless little child. He is a complete figure who needs as much attention as an adult. You might even guess that a few weeks old baby becomes accustomed to sounds. At the age of a few months, he begins to understand the feelings of anger and love. He turns his head to look at the voice and smiles.

It is said that the feet of the grandson is recognized only in the cradle. His habits and manners are well assessed in infancy. When you show indifference on his part, he makes you feel his presence by crying and screaming.

Self-respect

Over time, the child's self-esteem begins to grow. Some mothers scold their children from time to time in the presence of others. This is a very negative attitude towards the child's personality and should be avoided. This makes the child feel embarrassed. Which he later reveals in a negative way that you also find offensive.

 For example, deliberately disobeying in the presence of others. Doing things that he does not usually do alone, but as soon as a guest comes to the house or the people of the house are sitting together at some point, the child begins to do his own thing and sometimes it feels clear that all this He is doing it on purpose.

 You are amazed that the child had never done such a thing before, until a while ago he was fine, he was sitting comfortably, then all of a sudden what happened was that his mannerisms changed. If you ever think about it, you will notice that the child makes certain gestures to get attention or to disturb. Watch it carefully to find out. If he is happy with himself and while doing mischief he does not know for sure that you are watching him or someone else is attracted to him, then it means that this mischief is natural to the child.

 But if you see that he is going to look you in the eye and smile and do something that will make you angry or you have already stopped him from doing such a thing or mischief, then know that the child Just doing it to annoy you. He is well aware that this move may cause you to feel embarrassed or upset in front of the guests, so understand that this is his innocent revenge.

 You may have reprimanded them in the presence of these people before or shouted at them in anger or said in front of the guests that this child is very naughty never listens, I am fed up. I am and so on. And that thing stays somewhere in the child's mind because of which he teases you to hide his embarrassment.  

Most of the parents consider these actions of such children as vicious, disobedient, but there may be some parents who understand that this is a retaliatory action. Such children are very sensitive. If you ever notice that your child not only remembers your behavior but is becoming more aggressive, get over it because such children are very sensitive and delicate. 

They need a lot of attention and guidance and with a little attention, such a child can be made a pure gold because such children are intelligent and have a special ability to recognize the environment, speech and even the slightest movement of the eyes.

Inappropriate behavior

It is also a matter of concern that some parents show their children a little too much affection in addition to scolding them in front of the guests, as a result of which they get upset and often wait for such occasions when home. The people gathered or the guests came and they could celebrate their illegitimate objections. 

Such children are well aware that what the parents do not believe in alone, they will not be able to deny in front of the guests and our every objection and thing will be gladly accepted. Such "opportunistic" children then learn to blackmail their parents not only in childhood but later on in every step of life.

 And all this happens only because of the carelessness, ignorance, and unrestrained behavior of the parents. If your child has been given a balanced environment from the beginning, if he has been trained and brought up moderately, then such a situation does not arise.

"She's a baby now."

Five to ten or twelve years of age is very important and the foundation of a child's life. The things that are taught in this age group, the habits are not only lasting but also mature with time. This is the right and best time to teach your child a full positive lifestyle. , Is responsible for creating a failed but negative personality. 

Many parents think that he is still a child, he will learn when he grows up, he is still young, he has spent his whole life trying to understand the good and the bad. The thought "just a baby" is a dangerous and serious mistake. Remember, at this age if you can't tell right from wrong, right or wrong, you will never be able to do it again. 

Because this age is as important as it is beautiful. This period is the basis and root of the child's future life. And if the foundation is not strong, he will not learn anything in the future. Everything has a specific time, duration, and age to learn. But alas, the right age to teach something, the same age is neglected.

Here are some basic things to keep in mind when raising a child so that you can not only make his life successful and better but also complete his personality and save your future life and old age. Because the children who are trained on the best lines can not only become good human beings and improve society by going ahead, but also by taking care of you in a good way, they can become obedient and serving children. 

In this way they collect prayers, share love, and receive. His personality is complete, full, and enviable. And eighty to ninety percent of the hand in becoming such a person is the principles and style learned from childhood, that is the key to their success. Let's see if this can be done on basic training principles.

Be a practical example

Instead of giving your child verbal advice all the time, be the first to be a practical example of what you want to see in the child so that the child does not see contradictions or hypocrisy in your words and deeds. For example, if you want your child to understand and adopt religion and religion from the heart, you should make it a habit to recite the holy prayers first, instead of just asking him or her to recite the holy prayers verbally or under duress.

 When a child sees you, from the age of regaining consciousness, praying and reciting the holy verses with restraint, his subconscious mind will also be inclined towards worship. Just teaching and being busy on the phone, on TV will distract him. He will think that if prayer is so important then why don't the elders of the house do it. 

But if the same child sees you engaged in worship, he will not only be attracted to it but will embrace it wholeheartedly and consider it an integral part of his life, and thus you, all your life, carrying a stick or screaming in anger. You will not be forced to pray and recite the holy verses. He will automatically fall in love with religion.

High quality and generosity

Teach your child to be high-minded and generous from an early age. Teach him that the joy that comes from eating and playing by exchanging things and sharing is not in finding it alone. This is a simple rule that if your child learns, he will gladly accept successes as well as failures at any point in his life. Because high quality teaches a person to live bravely. 

Let the child know that the other siblings have a right to the toys or things they have and that what they have is the best. So the joy of sharing your best thing with others is far more precious than the effort and jealousy of seeing the best thing of others. 

When your child learns to share his things, stop looking at other people's things, then a bud of generosity and high spirits will grow in him. He will be satisfied with his own things and will not be jealous of the things of others. Going forward, he will live a contented life instead of being jealous, greedy, and jealous.

Familiarity with empathy

Empathy means that the child not only knows how to gain empathy but also teaches him to empathize with other children. Instead of being familiar with the state of self-pity, be kind and compassionate in its nature. Children who are accustomed to focusing only on themselves are unaware of the feelings of others. Being indifferent and selfless to someone else's pain and taking the slightest pain to the next level can be very harmful in the future. 

So make your child realize that just as his needs, joys, and worries are important to you, so are the other siblings' issues important to you and should be. If he doesn't take care of others today, others won't realize it either. Teach the principle of giving love before taking love. 

Make him feel that you can help others. Sometimes by helping a poor person with his hands, by feeding someone, by giving someone your child's old things, with the child's consent, you can realize how happy his little help is to others. And given ease. But do it all in moderation and moderation. Don't overdo it to make the child feel superior. It is good to make him realize that if you help someone, someone will help you.

Never compare

It has often been observed that parents compare one of their children with the rest of the children or the children of those who are burnt in the family. If parents do all this so that their child does not have any shortcomings and only to the the extent of their own thinking, then this is true, but most of the ignorant parents compete or compare it in front of their children. 

Get involved with other children. It's a good idea to compliment another child's good habits, but make sure that the compliments are such that your child is willing to adopt those words or habits on their own, not to get angry and be jealous in a negative way. Be a victim of Healthy competition is only effective if it is done positively, otherwise, the child's personality is damaged. 

He never likes his parents to leave him and start singing for others. In this way, his delicate heart and mind are hit hard. Tell your child the best habits of your child and then tell the good habits of other children to your child with love and kindness and never tell him to look how good he is, that's how it is, but use the words that The virtues you have seen in another child. ”Son, my heart longs to see these virtues in you too. In this way, the child will develop a tendency to be good and he will not be suspicious of your love for you.

Look at the selection of sports

This may sound ridiculous, but the fact that your child likes to play or is playing games can reveal the secrets of his personality and nature. For example, if a child likes games like breaking toys, distorting everything, or fighting martial arts, then his nature also flourishes. Children who are prone to constructive or positive play also have a tendency to lead a loving, constructive, and positive life. Take a look at some of the people around you, observe their habits and habits, and then ask them about their favorite childhood sports. 

You will be amazed at the similarities between their nature and their childhood sports. Will be left As a child, one of my relatives was obsessed with torturing animals, tying them up, beating them, and clapping for joy when they screamed in pain. Unfortunately, the parents never considered or forbade the child. To them, it was just a harmless game. But when the same child grew up, he was not only strengthened by the aggression and torment of nature, but also by growing up. 

The only difference was that he now had this attitude towards humans instead of animals. Doing one's own thing, rejoicing in the helplessness of others, obstructing one's progress, and then watching a spectacle, were his favorite pastimes. He used to laugh at his parents' pain and illness. If he had been severely reprimanded as a child, reprimanded, and made to feel hurt, he would not have continued the game for the rest of his life, but he might have improved and changed his temper. 

Keep an eye on your child's games, encourage them if you think their games are positively constructive, but if there is any doubt that your child enjoys playing games that are negative and hurt others. If so, take immediate notice and explain it properly and try as much as possible to stop him from playing such games. 

Help her change in her game and inexplicably attract her to the fun but constructive games. Teach them to love animals, observe birds, feed them grains, and explain the difference between good and sin with love. Never allow animals to be harmed or harmed. Make them aware that loving these dumb animals is pleasing to God. It is a sin to hurt them. A child who loves animals grows up to be very sensitive and compassionate. His nature is gentle, God-fearing, compassionate, and able to understand the feelings of others more than ordinary people.

Teach honesty

Teach children that honesty is a valuable thing. In today's society it is becoming increasingly difficult to train children. Because we can't teach a child anything unless we and our society have a picture of practical honesty. Today, however, such attributes are disappearing from our society. When a child sees things around him such as lying, hypocrisy, distrust, cheating, gossiping, disrespecting others, screaming, and manipulating, he becomes mentally disturbed. 

He does not know what to do or not to do. On the one hand, his parents think that he should be honest and not lie. On the other hand, the child is told to go to the door and say that Papa is not at home. The mother does evil to others in front of her child in front of her burnout, in front of everyone who comes, it has a very bad effect on the child's innocent mind and then the mother threatens not to tell anyone, then the same mother and child When she is scolding why she lied, why she hid from me, obviously the child's mind is distracted as to what to adopt and what to avoid. So start with honesty yourself. The child will learn what he sees.

Don't make children cowards

Some parents have a habit of keeping their children in the palm of their hand and being their shadow. Keep them away from the heat and worries of the times. This is not a bad thing as a parent, but if you look at the background and consider the consequences, this is a very serious problem. In this way your child becomes so accustomed to luxuries that when he does not achieve anything when he fails when he gets into trouble at some point in life, he does not have the courage to fight this challenge. 

He considers the life to come only as a sage of happiness and flowers. In this way, he can neither face the cold of the times nor strive to get out of the difficulties, but gives up and sinks into the abyss of despair. Just think whether it is love or enmity towards your own child. Teach him that life is about ups and downs. 

Where there is happiness, there is also sorrow. Where there is success, there can be a failure. Time and circumstances are never the same. So prepare yourself mentally for all kinds of situations. Explain to him in words that there are small sorrows and frustrations in life. 

Only by fighting them and fighting bravely can we move forward. Recount from time to time events and experiences in which you once faced disappointment and then with your courage and enthusiasm you not only overcame this problem but many successes in the next life were due to this one failure.

If you incorporate these small but very important and a few basic things that will completely improve the personality of the child into the life of the child with a little effort, then there is no reason for him to grow up to be a useful good thinking and positive wisdom. Couldn't be the best person to practice.